My extraordinary leadership lessons from an ordinary experience

When I was at grade groom, I primed(p) special reverence to teachers. I specially admire their power every(prenominal)where their students the charge they get hold of them seated properly in their designated seating arrangements, the way they let them enter and leave the room in a archive and the simple way of making each student to greet them until now kayoedside the school campus. There were judgment of convictions when I also daydream of being a teacher when I finished school for iodin good sympathy I wanted to lead.As I grew older, I do apprizeed that teaching profession is not as well-heeled as what I thought it was. As a joined school and community activities, I defy wise to(p) that holding positions in organizations garners a lot of sense in terms of attractorship training. I also makeed that leading does not always take intelligence, energy and time and that being a leader does not in anyway see any single(a) greater than the ones being led. Leadership rather takes the whole somebodyality of a psyche, including his heart, his mind and his soul.Leadership is not all about power its about love and concern. With this ordinary experience, I will prove that the leader and the follower in its sense are ordinary dissevericipants in the plot of ground of life where everyone is regarded equal. My experience will prove that by being a protg, one will be able to prepare himself to be a good leader someday.I was brocaded in a conservative family conservative in a sense that my family has countless precepts and regulations set up for us children. When its a rule, conformity has to be no more(prenominal), no less. At home, the power lies in the transfer of my strict father. House rule says no one has to be outside the house when its already dark. House rules say everyone has to around the table when its dinner time, no talking, and most of all, eat w abhorver food is prepared.When my father says youre unlawful, dont dare to question hi s judgment and dont ever dare to speak a word to explain and to bind yourself. Until I entered high school, theres nothing I go to bed about leadership tho power. I studied in truth wakeless because father wants me to dumbfound good grades. So no one fuel blame me if I see leadership as having the power to make others fear you. Not until I was asked to join a fix up sport and support the courage to try, that these views on leadership restrain all changed.The organizers were meticulously picking the finders. Actors and actresses were selected from different levels and when the final list came out, I was really lucky to find my figure of speech there. But no, I was not one of the stage actresses. I will be part of the dramatic play as the narrator, and yes, I chose to play that part. It may sound really weird for some because stack often desire to be at the lime light. It is but crude for anyone to grab the opportunity of having his or her abilities and talents be sh throw to many a(prenominal). If there be liberty to this common life scene, I am an exemption. I chose to stay underside the stage because I am afraid to ruin the presentation in the case that I forget my lines.My family training developed me into a good individual, but it also deprived me of learning how it is to be outside my own home. I was locked in the house all my childhood life so I was not able to develop my social sciences. I was raised to be a loner, and so I lived that kind of life until I entered high school. My family training deprived me of the opportunity to sack self-confidence.That is maybe the reason why I chose to be behind the scenes of the stage play. What made me use up to play as a narrator is my stage fright. I inadequacy the confidence of take myself in front of many people. I hate being in a place where I am noticeable. I am weird, they say. Yes, I am. I am afraid to make a mistake, so I chose to just narrate since I have something in my hand to re ad.During rehearsals, I often got insulted by the trainor for my poor diction. There were many times when I was threatened to be replaced by someone who could do better than I do. Few days have passed and yet the trainor appease told me I have not yet improved. I felt exchangeable I am the least performer in group. I have the least coaching time while I had the most naggings and loco words swallowed during the practice. I was wherefore planning to quit but I was halted by the thought that my father would not sure enough manage the nous of his daughter giving up. I have to continue, I have to essay more. I have to make sure my trainer will not replace me when he got fed up of nagging at me. peerless rehearsal session made all things in my mind changed. The trainer gathered all the stage play participants, including the support group. He has to make some announcements on some pocket-sized changes on the script and on the planned stage set-up. We were all gathered in the gym, with the trainers microphone as loud and clear so that anyone will for certain hear what he has to say. He asked the group to make the best of every session as the play is as important as the name of the school.We have to make sure that everything will turn out first-rate and excellent in the night of the performance. He told the main characters that they are the one who will face the audience and should therefore have the assurance of execute very well. He told the support group that even if they only play as backgrounders, they are great contributors to the success of the presentation. He said the play will not be as beautiful as it is say to be when the facilities, especially the sounds and the lights are not properly set-up.He then mobiliseed me up and said that I am holding an important mathematical function in the play. He said that as the narrator, I am the one who will bring life to the scenes that are not to be compete on stage but are important in bringing out the out acclaim of the story. He told me that I am not in anyway the least of the group because I have in my hands the responsibility of connecting every scene in the play. I am, in its essence the light of the dark spots in the story.WHAT I HAVE detect ABOUT MYSELFMy energy from that day seemed to have been refueled. I strived really hard by reading my lines over and over again, day and night. I established that I am not in anyway the least of the group, nor I am to let myself be the least performer. My life has never been this crabby and substantive until I started gaining my self-confidence. To believe in yourself in not what others call pride but it is a thing that I believe a personal command. I have learned that everyone has his own talent, ability and skill that is innate in him. That precious thing in a person just needs to be discovered and be used to meaningful activities.HOW THE own STRENGTHENED MY SELF-LEADERSHIP SKILLSI have learned that every person has a unique way of discovering his abilities. Some just naturally make up. There are some that need to be tapped, some need digging up, and there are those which require spite and suffering ahead their talents are squeezed up. Having these facts, I have learned that mentors, teachers, trainers and anyone who manage people have their own style of handling things. If they choose to be generous and considerate, they have all good reasons of doing so.If mentors choose to be strict and display their punishing personalities, they all the valid reasons to do so. What I have most importantly learned in my experience is that teachers, mentors and even parents all wanted their students, their subordinated and their children to learn the vital lessons of life that is, to bring out the best out of them.I have realized that my trainer chose to be too strict to me because he wanted me to strive harder. He did not mean to frighten me, not he did want to make me timber that he did not like me. Since that da y, my trainer eventually noticed and commended the improvements on my performance. He told me that I have already gained the confidence that he long been wanting me to bring out. He told me that loners like me are not at all hard to handle. corresponding him, loners need encouragement like what he did.HOW THE EXPERIENCE IMPROVED MY interpersonal SKILLSSince the school play, I have not yet had the guts of connectedness activities which require a lot of public exposure. I did join more activities and have chosen the same roles. I did so not because I was not able to learn and apply what my trainer have taught us. It is because I have learned that leadership need not to be as publicly done as many think it is. I have learned fro, that experience that leadership is not all about pickings a post, having an official designation and handling people.I have learned that leadership begins when one was able to conquer his fears in life. Leadership begins by leading your own life and let othe rs see the difference when you come out of your own shell. I have learned that extraordinary lessons in life are learned by paying attention to little things in ordinary life experiences. When one has to learn, he has to experience pain and sufferings before glory comes in his hands. My journey in life did not go that smooth and easy. It took me to endure insults and discouragements. But all of these are part of training and I believe, every tear shed and every effort that comes out of my body is worth the lessons of leadership.AN EVALUATION OF MY PERSONAL EFFECTIVENESS later the activity, I have never been a loner. I still did not have the guts of doing public appearances but I did improve on handling people who work as supports. It was not because this is all I can do but because I chose to do it, and this is what makes me happy. I feel that by doing so, I am able to give my best and that in this area where my talents and skills are best utilized.HOW THE EXPERIENCE HAS BEEN A VAL UABLE EXPERIENCE TO ME at present I understand why my father has to lock us up in the house all day long during weekends. promptly I understand why we have to behave well during dinner. now I understand why I have to bring out my books and notes even after school and at night after meal. Now I understand why father deprived us of conclude out at him. Like all parents, father wants us his children to be raised as well-behaved individuals. He just wants us to learn that childhood life is not all about eating and playing matters.He has been this strict because he wanted to show us the realities of life. Sometimes, it really takes to deprive someone of common and ordinary things in order to gain the extraordinary lessons of life. By my fathers way of training us, I have learned that leadership is not all about fear, but obedience. Leadership is not all about power, but respect. If they have not handled me this way, I am afraid that I was not able to fix my status in life now. The e xperience has been a valuable event in my life that whatever life takes me, I will surely look back to the time when I was in that time of my life, nerve-racking to grasp the valuable lessons of life.